You ever have that feeling in your gut wondering if you made the right decision. Or even guilty for moving on and possibly entertaining someone else who is not your ex? I know as women we pretend that we are fine and we don’t care. But let’s get real at some point when your relationship ends you have that one moment of apprehension and questioning within yourself. If you are a guy reading this I am here to spill the tea and tell you, yes we do still think about you from time to time. From my personal experience, I have had that moment of questioning and apprehension about dating again and getting to know another individual on a more intimate level (not physically people get your minds out of the gutter) because in the back of my mind I hold on to that one little glimmer of hope. That my ex will change and become all the potential I know he can be. Even though you know realistically he will probably become all that potential years from now when you’re about to turn thirty and you have moved on. Men, your timing is always horrible it never fails that you become who we always knew you could be, but you become that for the next woman. So all of that hard work and time we put into helping build, uplift and encourage you is awarded to the next woman in your life.
But that is when I remember that being single has been one of the most freeing experiences of my life. It has taught me to love myself first before I could ever love anyone else. The confidence of loving every part of me and embracing that has never been more clear and important than now. I like to be an optimist most of the time so I look on the bright side it could be a lot worse. I could be a miserable single bitter female. That’s never fun! But instead, I am choosing to be patient because God’s timing is always perfect. If you are in a similar situation ladies take this time to get to know you and don’t be so quick to jump into the next relationship let the wounds heal. Remember life is a feeling process and your intuition and energy will let you know when you are ready to bless the next individual with your time and commitment.